She told me that she understood everything happens for a reason, and that what happened to her was somehow meant to be.
She shared her experience of abuse that started in childhood and how it was suppressed throughout adolescence and young adulthood. The realization she now contains of relationships that were ruined, the psychological damage that was done, and the emptiness that was caused by one person to so many. It pained me to hear how she still had healing to do because of it all.
I saw two major things in her story:
1) This woman is striving to find something good, out of something awful that happened to her (she continues to carry so much courage)
2) This woman is in so much pain from something that she did NOT deserve to go through that she struggles to see who she is now (she is weighed down in mental fog to think she “earned” something bad to come into her life)
Here’s what can be learned from this one story…terrible things happen. Sometimes, terrible things happen to good people and it crushes their spirit.
Digging deep inside is sometimes the only way to thrive (not just strive) passed the evil that weighs us down. If our spirit was a candle….someone who wants you to be in the dark with them will blow it out. That does not mean you need to stay in the dark! Find a match and light that baby back up!
My hope for anyone, who has been weighed down in depression by trauma, is that you see your true beauty inside and accept that we may never know a logical reason to every bad thing that happens, and it does not need to stop you from being your amazing, beautiful self! So don’t let the trauma win, shine bright again.