Tired or Depressed/ Lending a Hand or Hand Holding

I saw a post yesterday stating that a response of “I’m good, just tired” is a red flag to the beginning of depression. As someone who was diagnosed for years with MDD (Major Depressive Disorder) it made me think about something.

My eyes have been so heavy from working hard and not sleeping much lately AND depression is the LAST thing on my horizon. Why would anyone assume that a natural response to working hard and lack of recent sleep equates to depression? I have loved the moments I used outside of sleep to do what I love. I slept shorter hours by choice. It brings me joy and was a temporary use of an area that will be replenished in the near future. Does my past automatically dictate my future because that is the “norm” now?

If the normal response these days is to fall into depression because day to day life is just too much to handle, then maybe it is time to make some serious adjustments and stop allowing todays culture to tell you how you should be responding! This was the only solution to “beating” my depression years ago and not looking back.

One reason for this post is to share (from my perspective and experience) that I appreciate the “Be Kind” movement that has flooded our society and become routinely heard. However, I would also like to see people take a step back and not give excuses to irresponsible choices to abide by this new kindness culture.

We all have choices to make each day and sometimes we will make the wrong ones. Being kind and caring to others and ourselves is important when we need a hand to help us up, as we dust off, and keep going forward after making those incorrect steps. On the flip side, if someone chooses to lay down and not get back up regardless of the helping hand that has been extended…..THAT IS A RED FLAG. Please then use the kindness you’ve been graced with to guide that individual to a qualified avenue of help (maybe that is you, maybe it is not, only you can make that decision).

My hope is that this clears up any unnecessary flooding of people into mental health services and/or accusations of individuals needing such help. Lending a hand does not mean hand holding. Let’s leave that latter to happy couples who intend to walk side by side through it all.

Published by kmwilkerson

I am single mother of a 15 year old special needs son. I turned away from the corporate world that was supporting us to be home more with my son and manage my own physical illnesses that crept up on us. Two years ago I decided to take up writing (which was something I loved doing as the younger me) and I just published my first book, with many more in the making. I strive to leave a legacy for my son that could assist in his unknown future once I am gone.

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