Have you ever met someone that puts their life in front of danger for the sake of the greater good? I bet you have, whether you know it or not. Think about the person.

Did you notice whether they have a stressed-out demeanor or if they have learned the art of peace? I recently interacted with someone that keeps me in awe.

Everyday I interact with this person he has a sincere smile on his face, he waves hello, and cheerfully goes out in the world to protect our state. His name is (for the sake of confidentiality) “The State Trooper”.

Mr. State Trooper has an infectious smile that brightens your day, while being visually armed and ready to defend at any second. It sounds impossible to have both at the same time, but he makes it work.

As he waves goodbye to start the day with a smile, he comes back with the same smile along with a story. Some stories are not as difficult to hear as others, but what gets me is this….

A man that just faced a known murderer in a shoot off (and winning the battle), should at the very least be emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausted beyond holding a smile….and yet, he happily stops to answer anyones questions with the sincere smile hidden within his eyes….because he loves his job. He TAKES care of us by TAKING down ones that are out to harm us, he actually CARES for us by showing his love and compassion for the work he does, and he GIVES of himself beyond what many have the capacity to do.

So, thank you to Mr. State Trooper, along with all that were involved in the crazy 3 week manhunt within our area. As a single woman and mother, it is important to me that you (as well as the others) are out helping keep our community safer for us to live freely.

Society Still Needs Kindness

I’ve been out talking to people wherever I go and the story remains the same. Society has not balanced out yet. Everyone is working hard at something and yet many are benefiting off others hard work. Why?

There are individuals who have degrees in areas of expertise that are working jobs that pay less than half their salaries to get by in this economy. They cannot even afford to pay back their loans that they made proper decisions to maintain after the perceived payout would come. My question is why?

According to the news updates in the last year or so, jobs are on the rise and unemployment should be continuing to decline as people take those jobs. However, the jobs that are available do not serve up the pay or benefits that are needed to maintain only one job (opposed to a career that many have invested money into). So in a rat race to keep up on bills and sleep, is there any other industry to jump into other than Health and Wellness?

I have always been an advocate for the Mental Health field and believe in therapy, as well as finding a good work vs. home life balance. Having said that, I also believe that whoever pushed the button on the focus to upscale health, over threw their shot. Especially when you add in the desire to legalize something that we all know impairs some peoples ability to be productive. (Do not misunderstand me, I believe in natural remedies and utilize what I can before pharmaceuticals, but I also understand the need for additional studies before jumping on the band wagon for ALL people). By focusing so intently in one area (health/wellness), you neglect the others.

The others (like proper income levels) now becoming dependent upon the one you want to show bias to, leaving the imbalance in society. So, how long will it take before the balance returns; I now wonder if it ever existed….hmmmm

I was raised to believe that if you worked hard, put in the effort, that it would pay off, and you could “climb the ladder” as it were. Did I see favoritism and oppression from time to time? Of course. There are people out there with hateful spirits that do not want to see others succeed or be happy. It’s sad and true. There are also people who still believe in helping, and can/will raise anyone up that puts in their effort. But we have now become a society that will either fight to the death to barely make it, or is already beaten down that they have given up and would rather be taken care of by the government.

Hand-outs can be nice and everyone loves free stuff from time to time, but if that is how you assume life is on a daily basis then nothing holds any value. It’s time to start understanding everyone’s place and the value they hold in those places. a balanced outlook in all industries is needed.

Labor work is extremely hard on our bodies and eventually breaks them down if they are not properly cared for and given the rest they need. They don’t always pay as well as they should nor do they always offer benefits that carry on after retirement to cover the extra costs of disabilities that are bound to people who remain on those positions throughout a lifetime. (I believe this is sometimes because those people hold such pride in their work that they “grin and bare it” rather than complain or come out of pocket for the care they need before it gets out of control). Then there’s the flip side…

Let’s talk: Schooling, corporate and/or admin work. While these things do not always cause the amount of physical disabilities in the long run, they can. I have watched many assistants go on leave for carpal tunnel surgery, issues with feet, neck/back issues from sitting or standing at computers for hours at a time and not having the proper stretch breaks. *(Which are made available by applications nowadays that can be easily installed on corporate computers, if the company cares enough about its employees to do so).

Don’t forget about the issue our country has on obesity. Whether home on disability, at a computer for hours only eating unhealthy snacks, or some other reason….these issues also come into play of how someone needs proper education on health, backed up by an employer (or for those on disability without employment: the government) for the financial assistance to pay for it!

I almost forgot – schooling. For ones who chose not to continue their schooling, maybe you hated it and couldn’t wait to get out. Do you remember why? Maybe it was hard, maybe it was exhausting.

For some, it is invigorating and their brains want to continue to absorb more information as they learn. Whichever end of the spectrum you sit on, IT IS still exhausting at a certain point. These individuals also sit at computers or books for long hours of the day, many not eating healthy foods because they can barely work part time while holding down the study hours and classes, etc., to keep up.

My point in breaking all this down is this: we all have daily battles AND life will throw extra stuff at us on top of it (family/relationship issues, etc.), so please don’t forget to keep your eyes open to the possibility that the world is unfair to everyone right now. We need to make sound judgement calls in life but before you judge another about what you perceive their position is in life, think.

The agenda that has been set for society is still not a balanced one, but I believe someday it will be and that hope and faith is what keeps me going. I hope for all of you that it will as well. As you go out today (or if you are home on disability/unemployment), I hope you take a moment to recognize that everyone has their own cross to bare and we need to be kind to one another as we carry them.

How much should they know?

I took a leap back into the corporate world for a short time, listening to the idea that it could be temporary and that the build of security in finances and retirement would do me good.

What I’ve learned is that it has not changed from being a cutthroat/competitive and number driven environment. As a matter of fact it is worse. The amount of people who have access to your personal information and ability to stop, block, or alter anything they want in those areas are on a larger scale than they were 10 years ago.

It’s extremely sad to me that as a society we have to walk around armed at all times, knowing that if someone doesn’t like the way you said something (regardless of the intention), they could have power over your life. Let’s think about that for a second.

Terry has lots of friends and connections to different areas of business. They all like her and would do things for her because of that fact.
She meets Rosa and they get along fine but Rosa is a bit standoffish because she takes her time to get to know people. Terry doesn’t understand why she isn’t instantly liked and complains to a friend about it. That friend takes it upon herself to look into Rosa’s background and/or finances. Her thought process was maybe this individual has something to hide. So, she goes about her investigation. (Which is perfectly legal today through the internet). She then shares the information she has found with Terry. Here comes the first question: Is this appropriate?
Second: Does it matter what was seen, should she be sharing personal information about another persons life? It states on most websites not to do so, however it still happens, that’s just a fact.

Let’s face another fact right now. We have ALL made mistakes, bad decisions, and had to learn lessons in life….that does not make a bad PERSON, it just means the person is human. However, the way information is presented can play a part in how someone is perceived by another.

Let’s go back to our example again, what if a third friend was around Terry when being told the information on Rosa’s past. Would that be considered gossip or just concerned friends? What if they unknowingly talked about Rosa in front of someone who was getting ready to provide assistance or a job opportunity to her. Could that potentially ruin the image that Rosa showed of herself (the best self, not the mistakes she’s made in the past)? Would that change your choice of whether it is gossip or not? Should they feel bad if they impacted her chances at a better future because of discussing her past? In this scenario no one truly knows her well enough to see if she has learned from her past.

That brings me to these questions: How much information is too much information to learn about someone before connecting on different levels? Does working with someone entitle you to know about all aspects of their life? Why?

Somethings to consider: If someone is working with money and finances, does it make sense to see whether the individual has a history of bankruptcy and/or charges of fraud, embezzlement? I would say yes. I would also say that how a person handles their own money is not a employers business (especially if they do not pay a decent portion of financial support towards their living expenses), but I can see where they may have concern (whether from a sense of empathy or self preservation of their business).

What do you think? How much information should be shared between friends? What about on a business level? Do people have a sense of separation from friends and business? Should they?

She had light in her eyes

For a brief moment in time we get to know individuals and see the spirit that they carry
Sometimes it’s painful to watch as they struggle, sometimes it’s beautiful to see the light in their eyes
When they are no longer with us, it’s easy to be taken over by emotion
My heart aches today as I only got to know my friend for such a short time
I’m so grateful that suffering did not carry on but how I wish she could have had more joy before the end

Money, Power, and Gratitude. Do they work together?

The schemes that people use to get ahead (seeking money and power) can easily be put into practice when they use unsuspecting individuals that “do as they’re told” without the knowledge or experience to question what’s happening.

I see this in the workplace today. There are individuals who are treated as Kings and Queens simply because they hold the pen to the paycheck.

These individuals will employ people who are grateful to have a job, not understanding the true value they offer to the company itself.

They are asked to do things that are not always within their abilities, provided the necessary resources to make it happen, nor paid the salaries that someone with the knowledge or background should be making!

Based on the knowledge that this is happening in multiple industries, my question is this….”What the H-E-double hockey sticks is the government really doing about it?”

Next question “Does every industry need a union to protect its workers these days?”

Another “Should it need to set off activism before we see change, or is the government going to take a proactive part instead of being reactive in our own country?”

I would love answers. Anyone else? I know I am not the only one seeing this. I also know that whether our unemployment rate is going down or not, this is still an issue… what has really changed?


Are you ready for what you want?

Is it time that is lacking or the ambition and motivation that stop you from making the change necessary for the joy you are seeking?

Have you found yourself trapped in a cycle of stagnation?

Sometimes asking the question is the first step into that breakthrough.
Ask yourself, “What around me needs to change, or be removed, to get one step closer to my next goal?”

Second question can be, “Can I make this change on my own, or do I need to reach out for help?”

There are long lists of resources out there to help you achieve whatever it is you are aiming for.

The last question to ask yourself is this, “Am I ready to take the steps necessary to achieve what it is I want?”

If your answer is yes, GO GET IT! Take that leap! What do you have to lose?
The worst case scenario is you fall down and have to dust off the dirt. So you head down another path…..and you still have the experience to learn from….still a win in my eyes.
Take the step. Head in the direction you see yourself. Make your energy worth the time used, not the time using all your energy.

Emotional abuse, what do YOU do?

Have you ever felt the sadness inflicted on you by another person, just moments after you’ve made a stride and felt great? Maybe you have watched a friend or family member endure this type of scenario.
This is the definition of emotional abuse.
When suffering with such abuse people turn to many things: Spirituality, Therapy, Creativity, and even self-destructive measures (drugs and alcohol).
When these things no longer bring relief, what do you suggest while watching someone struggle with this lifestyle?
Do you offer support?
Do you give them resources to reach out to?

Do you stay silent?

Is it time to step in and step up? How involved is too involved in another’s life these days?

Think about it

Can You See Beyond Your Walls?

Many people today are working so hard in their jobs that they don’t have time to see outside, to recognize what is going on from a larger spectrum.

This can be thought of in a deeper way as well. Do we take the time to look at our lives (not just our jobs/careers) to see what is going on from others perspectives? Or notice the little things around us that we maybe missing out on?

Some people may think this is a “hippie dippie” attitude or scoff at the idea itself, and I’m here to say….it is the answer to maintaining a sense of peace that the rat-race will never provide.

Studies have shown that working until you fall over is not only counter productive but it is also making us sick.

Taking a step back (even when you feel everything will fall apart if you do), is sometimes the only way to let go of the idea that YOU have to hold everything on your shoulders to get to a happier place and completion.

Of course there are times in life that are hard, and yes, we have to put in hard work to learn new things and grow…..but does that mean we should be working to the extent of complete exhaustion and/or panic and anxiety?

Try something new today

Take just five minutes (DO NOT LOOK AT THE CLOCK!) and breathe. Do nothing else.

At the very least, try to free your mind of anything you need to do…and enjoy the sunshine, smell a flower, really taste something that you enjoy. Five minutes. Remember to take time to jump out of your limited view and see/experience something else to help maintain joy in your life.

I hope this helps someone today.

Remember if you know of someone that struggles with mental illness or is just having a rough season in life, there is help out there.

At any time they (or yourself) can text 741741 for free assistance and someone to talk/text to. You may also type in NAMI to a search engine to help you find local resources to help out in times of need.

Look at the grass, do you walk on it?

Growing up we were taught to stay off people’s grass and to not pick flowers without permission from the owners of the property. There is a reason for this….

There are people who take pride in the place they dwell in. So much that they invest money, time, and effort into that area. The quote “the grass is greener where you water it” is true!

While you may be a person who would rather the pavement vs grass for the sake of not having to water or “invest” the time and energy, you should still take into account a broom (because any area can get messy), just make sure you don’t use it to turn into someone who would fly on it rather than care about how others feel about their property.

When you make a decision on where to stay, do you take into account the look of the environment or do you only care about pricing? Does this make a difference on how you choose to manage the area while you are there? (I.e. Would you clean up after yourself in a slum area or dump your garbage anywhere? Do you expect someone will come make your bed for you if you are paying enough for an individual to be paid to do those things?)

How do you feel about your environment? Do you need to invest more time, energy, and possibly finances to make it something to be proud of?

How can this be related to any area of your life? Think about it.